His sweet little voice and passion for music just melt my heart. I especially like the end when he starts to sing Yo Gabba Gabba. (He has quite an eclectic taste in music. Haha!)
Yesterday we hosted a play date with our local SMC group. I joined earlier this year and it wasn't very active and their aren't a lot of people, which was kind of disappointing. Someone finally decided that we should have a monthly meet-up, so December was my month. I decided in my spare time (yeah, right!) I would bake 7 dozen sugar cookies off all different shapes (snowflake, Christmas tree, gingerbread man, etc.) and the kids would decorate them with frosting and sprinkles. Six kids and their parents joined us, and everyone had fun! I am still blown away at how seven kids can destroy my basement and have every single toy out in .05 seconds.
The group is made up of a variety of different women, but we all share the commonality of being a SMC. It's the only group of people with whom I spend time that actually "gets it". I never get the, "But *Sidekick* is so easy" comment. Yes, he is easy, but that doesn't mean I am any less tired then a married mom with two kids. I have no family here, so I am raising Sidekick on my own 24/7. I lose my patience like any married mom. I wake up tired like any married mom. I have the same struggles like any married mom. My kid challenges me and throws temper tantrums just like their kids.
And then I've gotten the comment, "Be thankful you don't have two kids to deal with. It's so much easier with one." You know what? I'd love to have two kids, but my finances and my fear of having any type of debt prevent me from having another one. If I had a husband, I could afford to have another kid because I could afford daycare for two. It makes me sad that I can't have another kid. So, that comment never makes me feel better.
And my favorite: "Well, my husband isn't very helpful, so I understand how you feel" comment. No, you don't understand. It isn't even close! That mom generally has a dual income. That mom has an able body in the house so if the kid(s) is sleeping, she can at least run out to Target at 8:00 and roam around in no hurry while her husband sits on his ass at home and watches TV. That mom has someone who does something, whether he is a big contributor to the family household or not, that I don't have. So, it's not the same. Not even a little.
So, this group understands. It's like we have an unspoken truth about being a SMC. So, rather than bitch about our husbands, we talk about our kids and our desire to find a husband (not because we need one but because we would like to have someone with whom to share our lives), and I can't even think of a time when we have bitched about our kids. We understand how blessed we are. We understand how hard it is doing it alone. We understand that it's hard to keep it together. We do it all by ourselves, and we do it as best as we can. So while people try to compare my single lifestyle to their married lifestyle, this group of women just "gets it". There never needs to be an explanation for anything because instinctively we all know what it's like to walk in the SMC shoes.